What are some of the best ways to start a conversation with a girl?

One of the most common mistakes I observe over and over is good guys who turn crazy as soon as they talk to an attractive woman. The best method for starting a conversation and approaching a woman is to keep in mind that women arehuman. Hot or not, we want to be seen as normal human beings.

Walk over to her with confidence and slow movements. [How To Develop Bulletproof Confidence – The Ultimate Guide]

Moving slowly decreases your chances of bumping into something and it exudes more confidence. Also make sure you approach her more from the side than from the front – it’s less threatening.

Concentrate on having a good time. This should be your only goal. Don’t start talking to her, only because you want to convince her to that you’re worth being dated or whatever. That way you won’t have the pressure of saying everything right so you don’t screw up the chance of going home with her.

Remember: Women appreciate honesty! Don’t try to impress her by juicing up your stories.

Lead a normal conversation, conversation in which you just want to get to know her.

How to break the ice:

You: Hi. How’s your day been?

She – a bit surprised: Oh hi. :) It’s been fine. How was yours?

You: Stressful. I have so much to do because of that exam I have next week. I have to read two more books and they’re not an easy read.

She: Sounds tough!

You: It is. Btw I’m John! Nice to meet you!

She: Emily, nice to meet you too!

You: So.. What do you do?

She: I’m a teacher!

You: Really! At which school?

It’s always a good idea to do an activity that doesn’t require much attention parallel to having a conversation. Something like billiard, darts, bowling, cooking, sports, taking a walk,… It takes the pressure away and makes everything flow smoother and more natural.

If you’re interested in getting to a deeper emotional level in your conversations, check out the great article How To Talk On An Emotional Level.

Notice the signals others (including women) give you

• Not asking any questions = Next topic please!
• Looking at the clock several times = Please Scotty beam me out of here!
• “Mh”, “aha”, “ok” + seeming absent minded = You are boring!!!
• Looking around the room = All of the above.
• Staring into your eyes and listening closely = You are fascinating! Tell me more!
• Looking at your lips and not listening to your words (at a date) = Please undress me!

You might also like our ebook “The Basics of Attractiveness”. It’s filled with tips on how to become more attractive and confident.